For love ❤️ With Love

Every month I meet  people that have gone through intense abuse. Most of the time is psychological abuse, in the form of threats, insults, manipulation and so forth. I see suffering in their eyes, as tears come down their face and their voice trembles. Many times the scars of abuse leave no visible mark. It’s buried deep inside. Often times, victims normalize the events, believing that what they are living is normal.  It is not normal! It is not ok for someone to scream at you. It is not ok for someone to constantly undermine you. You don’t have to be quiet to avoid more confrontation. No! Not all relationships have abuse. It’s not going to get better if it hasn’t already.  It is not normal to have fear of your partner. It is not an accident that you have bruises.  It is not normal that things are thrown.  It is not ok. I know that it requires  so much strength to walk away from an abusive situation.  I know that it takes  a lot of courage to take stand up and commit to yourself.

I know you are going to say, “ I already do”. But do you really? Seriously, do you really love yourself? Better yet, are your actions a reflection of that? We have all heard that to love someone else, you must love yourself.  I used to think that I loved myself and that I understood what that meant. I was wrong. I didn’t know what loving myself really meant. I allowed people belittle me. I placed my self around people that didn’t appreciate me. I changed to please others. I changed to obtain love. I kept changing and changing until I forgot who I was. I quiet my voice and carried on many other actions that hurt me. But this post is not a complaint about the past, on the contrary, I am thankful  to the road that I took and all experiences that I had, which made me realized how I could built self love. I am thankful for all this experiences. Through them I realized that the love that I was seeking outside me, was missing inside me. So I began to built it, little by little. I b