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Abuse

Every month I meet  people that have gone through intense abuse. Most of the time is psychological abuse, in the form of threats, insults, manipulation and so forth.
I see suffering in their eyes, as tears come down their face and their voice trembles. Many times the scars of abuse leave no visible mark. It’s buried deep inside.
Often times, victims normalize the events, believing that what they are living is normal.  It is not normal!
It is not ok for someone to scream at you. It is not ok for someone to constantly undermine you. You don’t have to be quiet to avoid more confrontation. No! Not all relationships have abuse. It’s not going to get better if it hasn’t already.  It is not normal to have fear of your partner. It is not an accident that you have bruises.  It is not normal that things are thrown.  It is not ok.
I know that it requires  so much strength to walk away from an abusive situation.  I know that it takes  a lot of courage to take stand up and commit to yourself. I know is not easy to gather the strength and say that is enough.
But you have that strength in you! I promise that you do. If you take a deep breath and realize that you can leave the abusive relationship, you are already half way there.
The hardest part is deciding.
I know that you might want to give it one last chance, do it! Give that chance to you. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt that you CAN leave the abusive relationship. Give yourself the chance to change your living conditions. Give yourself the chance to care and protect you. Give YOU a chance.
❤️
You are not alone! Know that it looks harder than it is.... you Can do it. 

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