Have you ever bought a shoe that was a little too small? You know it when you try it on and it rubs a little too much. Even though you notice it and you still buy the shoes.
Maybe it was the model, the brand, the color or look, somehow you convinced yourself that you had to have it regardless of how it fits.
So, you wore it one day and it hurts. You put bandaids and give it time to “break in”. Another attempt goes by, and another and another and the shoes still hurt. But now they hurt even more because your skin is more sensitive as it has been hurt too many times.
Until one day, you finally decide that you will not wear the shoes ever again because no matter how much you like them, they hurt you. Is not much better to buy a shoe that is too big. If it is big on you, then you have to put something between you and the shoe for it not to fall off.
The same thing happens with relationships. We know right from start what’s going on, we might not like it, but we know it. There is a feeling inside that tells us, if it is a good fit for us or not. Often times we disregard the feeling because we like the other person. We might be attracted physically, mentally or maybe is not even attraction but they are just keeping us entertained. In some cases, the concept of having a relationship weighs more than how the relationship makes us feel.
Oftentimes even though the relationship hurts, people stay. It isn’t until their pain becomes unbearable, that they are willing to let the relationship go. At times people accept situations that cause them pain but the fear of letting the relationship go is stronger than the pain they experience. So, they don’t act.
If it doesn’t fit, it doesn’t. Don’t try to make it fit. If it hurts, if it causes pain, don’t make up excuses.
This type suffering is not worth it, no matter much you “think you love” that person.
When you acknowledge that is not good for you, you honor yourself and the other person.
So, stop walking around in shoes that are not your size!!
Maybe it was the model, the brand, the color or look, somehow you convinced yourself that you had to have it regardless of how it fits.
So, you wore it one day and it hurts. You put bandaids and give it time to “break in”. Another attempt goes by, and another and another and the shoes still hurt. But now they hurt even more because your skin is more sensitive as it has been hurt too many times.
Until one day, you finally decide that you will not wear the shoes ever again because no matter how much you like them, they hurt you. Is not much better to buy a shoe that is too big. If it is big on you, then you have to put something between you and the shoe for it not to fall off.
The same thing happens with relationships. We know right from start what’s going on, we might not like it, but we know it. There is a feeling inside that tells us, if it is a good fit for us or not. Often times we disregard the feeling because we like the other person. We might be attracted physically, mentally or maybe is not even attraction but they are just keeping us entertained. In some cases, the concept of having a relationship weighs more than how the relationship makes us feel.
Oftentimes even though the relationship hurts, people stay. It isn’t until their pain becomes unbearable, that they are willing to let the relationship go. At times people accept situations that cause them pain but the fear of letting the relationship go is stronger than the pain they experience. So, they don’t act.
If it doesn’t fit, it doesn’t. Don’t try to make it fit. If it hurts, if it causes pain, don’t make up excuses.
This type suffering is not worth it, no matter much you “think you love” that person.
When you acknowledge that is not good for you, you honor yourself and the other person.
So, stop walking around in shoes that are not your size!!